Caitlin, what a thought provoking article. As a 50 year old former college athlete who came of age in the 80's before AIDS. I learned about sex through my friends at first. You know, wham bam thank you mam. Who cares if she gets off as long as you do.

However, I was educated on how to treat a lady by a neighborhood woman ten years my senior. I was 14 she was 24. I was a man child at 14 6'3' 180 pounds. Anyway she taught me things that I use to this day. Go slow, make sure the girl is comfortable. Kissing and petting. Allow her to finish first. Find out what she likes. Talk to her during sex. Harder or Softer Faster or Slower.

Women are God's greatest gift, and of course we men are too stupid to look past your breast or ass. Unable to appreciate the color of your eyes or how your skin glows and Boo, you are having a great hair day.

Easy access to Porn is the main reason why men have unrealistic expectations from their partners. After having sex with so many women. I would be embarrassed to say. I made a pact with myself as a twice divorced grown up over a year ago.

My next sexual partner will be someone I care about and can see something long term with her. I still have urges and I masturbate once a week. But the greatest feeling in the world is having sex with someone you connect with mentally, spirtually, then physically.

Thank you for an amazing article. Keep up the good work.

Cheers!